Deep Listening

“Oh, the comfort — the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person — having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful hand will take and sift...

A Guide to Focusing

A Guide to Focusing Have you ever wondered why some clients benefit from psychotherapy, and others not? It’s such a great question, underpinning all the other questions I try to answer. Fortunately, there’s a robust body of research which can point us...

Infidelity

I have great admiration for Esther Perel. A relationship therapist who doesn’t pull punches, she simply tells it like it is with confidence and poise. Her latest TED talk may catch the eye of the unfaithful but, as she says, it’s for anyone who has ever...

Not sober yet….

He snuck through the “out” doors on the bus, unseen by the driver. Wearing a suit, no tie, at first glance the man appeared to simply be flouting the rules. As the bus rolled on towards Paddington, his head leaned against the window and I had my first inkling all was...

In search of the Dragon Tail

Working somatically is one of the joys of my life. Describing it with eloquence certainly one of the challenges. My teacher Dr. Richard Strozzi-Heckler has often said “it’s like trying to learn to swim from a book” – better to jump in the water and actually...

Remembering to Ground and Centre?

It may have been a while since you were in a room with others, being guided to breathe-ground-centre. Perhaps b-g-c- is an easy practice for you, readily incorporated into your daily life. How many repetitions have you managed? Well on your way to the three hundred...