The way home from anxiety

The way home from anxiety

I first met David Whyte many years ago (thanks to Richard Strozzi-Heckler at Strozzi Institute) and I am an admirer. I find myself captivated by his words, both spoken and written, often pausing podcasts to jot down some of his musings. One stopped me in my tracks...
Time to Pause

Time to Pause

Sometimes I wonder if my clients get sick of me saying “let’s pause, let’s take a breath” because I know I say it a lot. A Lot. Neuroscientists can tell us all about the benefit of settling the autonomic nervous system, calming the arousal in the sympathetic to the...
Beyond the standard reframe….

Beyond the standard reframe….

Most clients in therapy have been offered the good old reframe. It goes something like this: “so I hear you describe your teenager stomps around the house, ignores your requests and seems disrespectful [client nods] so I wonder if there’s anything else going on here?...
I Won’t Interrupt…

I Won’t Interrupt…

“Perhaps the most important thing we bring to another person is the silence in us, not the sort of silence that is filled with unspoken criticism or hard withdrawal. The sort of silence that is a place of refuge, of rest, of acceptance of someone as they are. We are...
Now what?

Now what?

“How are you?” I asked. “A bit blah” replied my client, “it feels like same old, same old, if only something interesting or exciting would happen! I want to change something but I don’t know what I want to change.” Resonate for you? It did for me. My own routine of...