Infidelity

I have great admiration for Esther Perel. A relationship therapist who doesn’t pull punches, she simply tells it like it is with confidence and poise. Her latest TED talk may catch the eye of the unfaithful but, as she says, it’s for anyone who has ever...

Adversity Advantage

“An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward.When life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means it’s going to launch you into something great.So just focus, and keep aiming.” Someone facing life-changing adversity recently shared this with me....

Things to keep to yourself

I feel so grateful that I came of age pre-social media. (Oh, the embarrassing things that could be haunting me now). Having a choice about what to share and keep private is such a gift, especially in a profession like mine where boundaries play such an important role....

The Snake Story

Terry Gorski tells one of my favourite stories. Heard many years ago when I first started working with people in recovery, it goes something like this. “One day, walking in a frozen wintry forest, I almost trip on something. When I look down I see a snake,...

Sniffing judgment

Taking a break from writing yesterday (what better way than set the timer for five minutes and head over to Facebook for some entertainment?) I stumbled across this fabulous blog by Gretchen Schmelzer, Ph.D. on healing shame. She likens it to a high altitude climb...

Wild Geese by Mary Oliver

I was raised to think poetry had to rhyme. Pretty limiting, but there we have it. So it was with joy and amazement I discovered a whole other world of gorgeous poetry, mostly courtesy my work at Strozzi Institute www.strozziinstitute.com where its founder,...