Sharing a secret

I’ve been watching Patrick Melrose. Loosely based on his own life, the author Edward St. Aubym tells a gasp-worthy story of privileged dysfunctional families, child abuse, alcoholism and drug addiction, with threads of redemption surfacing occasionally. I’m...

Infidelity

I have great admiration for Esther Perel. A relationship therapist who doesn’t pull punches, she simply tells it like it is with confidence and poise. Her latest TED talk may catch the eye of the unfaithful but, as she says, it’s for anyone who has ever...

Adversity Advantage

“An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward.When life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means it’s going to launch you into something great.So just focus, and keep aiming.” Someone facing life-changing adversity recently shared this with me....

Things to keep to yourself

I feel so grateful that I came of age pre-social media. (Oh, the embarrassing things that could be haunting me now). Having a choice about what to share and keep private is such a gift, especially in a profession like mine where boundaries play such an important role....

The Snake Story

Terry Gorski tells one of my favourite stories. Heard many years ago when I first started working with people in recovery, it goes something like this. “One day, walking in a frozen wintry forest, I almost trip on something. When I look down I see a snake,...

Sniffing judgment

Taking a break from writing yesterday (what better way than set the timer for five minutes and head over to Facebook for some entertainment?) I stumbled across a piece by Daniela Sieff, Ph.D. on healing shame. She likens it to a high altitude climb – one breath...

Wild Geese by Mary Oliver

I was raised to think poetry had to rhyme. Pretty limiting, but there we have it. So it was with joy and amazement I discovered a whole other world of gorgeous poetry, mostly courtesy my work at Strozzi Institute www.strozziinstitute.com where its founder,...

Token of your love

Christmas cards languishing “on sale” and already Valentine’s day cards available on the next shelf. Yikes! I’m sad the original opportunity to pen love notes to a sweetheart has disappeared in favour of what even Wikipedia dubs a Hallmark...

Not sober yet….

He snuck through the “out” doors on the bus, unseen by the driver. Wearing a suit, no tie, at first glance the man appeared to simply be flouting the rules. As the bus rolled on towards Paddington, his head leaned against the window and I had my first inkling all was...

AA Anxiety

This morning I baulked at the door of an AA meeting. As I hurried home through the early dawn light I thought to myself “If I can baulk at the door with a few weeks short of twenty-five years of sobriety under my belt, how must it be for the newcomer? Or the...